Two Lists Your Marriage Needs This Christmas - Tis the season of lists! You have wish lists, shopping lists, and TODO lists to manage. Santa is keeping track of a naughty list and a nice list. But there are two more lists that your marriage needs this season. Two lists your marriage needs this Christmas1. Truths I know about my mate2. Lies […]
What Jello Taught Me About Conflict Resolution - Working with jello offers three important insights into conflict resolution in relationships. Give it time to cool off, don’t mess with it when it’s still hot. Stop trying to nail it to the wall, some things can’t be solved by brute force. Don’t forget it in the fridge, at some point the issues must be dealt with. Conflict […]
Marriage Intimacy Meter - Intimacy in marriage is one of the most important indicators of your relationship’s health. If you and your spouse are not bonded spiritually, emotionally, and physically, you become far more susceptible to conflict and division. Quality time, vulnerable communication, and generous affection knit your hearts together into a beautiful union. Fortunately, there’s not much going […]Our Interview on Life Today+ - We sat down with Randy Robison of Life Outreach International to share our testimony and talk about our new book – The Phoenix Marriage: God creates beauty out of ashes. Randy asks some tough questions about infidelity, healing from betrayal, and being transparent with our kids about transgression.
How to Save Your Marriage – Part 3 - Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. – II Corinthians 5:17 God is in the business of renewal and restoration. If you put God at the center of your relationship (Part 1) and commit to investing deeply in your marriage for 40 […]
Is Your Love Unreasonable? It Should Be. - Throughout time, humans have elevated reason – our ability to rationalize and make judgement calls regarding good and bad decisions. In Aristotle’s Ethics he describes human beings as rational animals and identifies reason as a uniquely human characteristic. Our ability to justify and rationalize our decision-making is God-given. But dependence upon reason can also get in the way of God’s […]
I had no idea how expensive my affair would be - Nineteenth century Danish philosopher Søren Kierkegaard, is famous for his use of metaphor, irony, and parable in explaining ethical and religious concepts. One particularly famous parable describes a rather odd crime: Two thieves broke into a jewelry store one night, but instead of stealing the jewels they simply switched the price tags. They put high-priced […]
Six ways to equip your mind for spiritual warfare - Spiritual warfare — it’s all in your head. How you feel about good days. What you think when you have bad days. Your response to circumstances is a choice. It’s all in your head. You can choose to be a glass half-full or a glass half-empty type of person. You can choose to look at […]
Podcast Episode #1 – The Creep and The Cougar - We’ve just launched a weekly podcast! This Week is Episode #1 – The Creep and The Cougar Tammy and I share stories from our courtship. One of us is the Creep and the other is the Cougar. Any guesses which one is which? Tune in weekly to our Podcast page so you don’t miss a single episode.
How to Save Your Marriage – Part 2 - One advantage of marriage is that, when you fall out of love with him or he falls out of love with you, it keeps you together until you fall in again. – Judith Viorst As we shared in Part 1 of the “How to Save your Marriage” series, we recommend a phased approach to marriage […]Practical Marriage Tips #1 and #2 - We have just begun the process of converting our marriage tips into videos. Check it out! Tip #1 – Ask God to help you see your spouse like Jesus does. (I Samuel 16:7) This tip had a profound impact on our marriage when we discovered it early on in our marriage renewal process. […]
Our Marriage Testimony on Bring It Radio – July 2014 - Kyle and Tammy’s Marriage Testimony: We sat down and talked with Michelle Bentham and Mindy Dawn, hosts of Bring IT Radio. They asked us questions about our marriage testimony, family, and our ministry. We shared our story – how we got together, how we fell apart, and how God’s love and grace redeemed our mess of […]
I Stopped Saying Two Words to My Wife And You Should Too - Communication is an essential part of any successful relationship and marriage is no exception. Normally, I tend to recognize communication elements that I need to add to how I communicate with my wife. But sometimes, it’s just as important to recognize a bad habit and stop doing it. In this case, I have made a […]
How to Save Your Marriage – Part 1 - “For richer, for poorer.” “In sickness and in health.” “Till death do us part.” The two of you started off with the best of intentions, but something went awry. Once the newness wore off and the pressures of life set in, your bond began to unravel. It may have set in very quickly, or it […]
I Ruined My Marriage and So Can You! - Some people think it’s hard to mess up a relationship, but it’s actually quite simple. I’m going to share with you the secret to screwing up your marriage so that you can learn to be a fool just like me! OK. Are you ready for the secret? Here it comes…..Make it all about you. Pretty […]
The Declaration of Independence Lied to You - “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” The Declaration of Independence lied to you. Happiness isn’t something you pursue. It’s something you create. I’ve tried to pursue […]
Eight rules for rebuilding trust in your marriage - Trust. Its the cornerstone of any relationship. It holds soldiers together in foxholes and knits hearts together in marriage. The bond of trust is sacred and precious – until it’s broken. What do you do when you cross the line that you swore you would never cross? How do you continue in a relationship when your […]
The Universal Love Language - When Gary Chapman released his book, The Five Love Languages, it revolutionized how we think and talk about relationships. The concept of a “love language” quickly resonated with couples, pastors, and counselors around the globe. Over nearly two decades since the release of that seminal book, discussing your own love language and your spouse’s language has become […]
Father’s Day Contest 2014 - On June 15th, we celebrate fatherhood and the loving sacrifices made by the men in our lives. In honor of Father’s Day and the men that serve our families so lovingly, we are hosting a contest. We’re giving away two $30 Visa Gift cards. If you win, use it to go out on a date […]
Five lies that can wreck your marriage - Some marriages are confronted head-on with an obvious and devastating conflict, creating a crisis situation. But many marriages erode from within, fueled by debilitating lies. These lies are rooted in ignorance, selfishness, and fear. Assumptions about your mate and his or her intentions can produce bitterness and frustration in your heart. Left unchecked, they will […]
